It’s been a long time since I posted an encouraging self-help post. So long, in fact, that I feel ashamed of myself.
The truth is, the older I get, the more I struggle with being vulnerable. Maybe it’s because I’m “growing up” and it seemingly feels as if I have more to lose. I will admit that I still become fearful thinking of who specifically reads my words. Sometimes I just want my life to be private, and I’m unsure if blogging is the right choice at times. However, I don’t want those insecurities to deter me from being real on this blog. I vow to post more raw posts for you all, and I apologize that I lost touch with this part of myself. I know my self-help posts is what attracted many of you to my blog in the first place. I am sorry I have been out of touch lately.
I wanted to share with you what has been on my mind lately.
There is an activity I have been doing with my high school students that has been close to my heart. The initiative is called, “Give What You Can, Take What You Need.” Essentially, I’ve been encouraging my adolescents to write an encouraging message for someone in need, but not before taking what they need first. See the example here of what this project looks like.
Whether it was a favorite quote, an affirmation, or simply a phrase, I asked my students to leave positive encouragement. I encouraged them to write a message that they wished someone would leave for them. My only request was that the message was intentional and meaningful.
The messages my students wrote to one another were beautiful. Some of their words made me smile, and some of their words broke my heart.
Some of the messages read,
“Believe in yourself.”
“You are beautiful.”
“You are smart.”
“You got this.”
However, some chose to write more solemn messages that carried heaviness.
For example, the simple word of “Comfort,” read the sticky note.
A message that stated, “There is nothing wrong with you. You are human.”
“Just keep going. One more day.”
“Never let who broke your heart make you not want to love anymore. That person is just another person. I love you.”
And then, one message particularly jumped out at me, because it was what I personally needed in the moment:
“You’ll get there.”
This is what I needed to hear. It almost goes without explanation.
I’ll get there.
I’m imperfect. I’m flawed. I’m a ticking time bomb. I’m insecure. I’m incomplete. I’m unseasoned. I’m unfinished.
But I’ll get there.
And you will get there, too.
Photography by Shaunae Teske
So, now it’s my turn to ask you. What do you need today?
Is it comfort? Maybe strength? Perhaps unconditional love?
Most importantly, what encouragement can you leave for others? Something to think about.
Happy Tuesday, babes.