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Hello lovebugs!

Today’s blog post is all about a topic that I am passionate about advocating for; originality.

Let me ask you a question, and please answer it honestly! Have you ever bought a pair of shoes maybe because all of your friends had the same pair? I’m willing to bet that at some point in your life, you have conformed to what everyone else around you was doing. That question may have sounded incredibly childish, but even in adulthood, there is temptation to conform to all sorts of societal ideals, ideas, personal beliefs, and actions.

I see it on a daily basis, especially in the fashion blog-opshere. I remember for a brief period of time when all I saw on my Instagram feed were Hunter boots. I have nothing against Hunter boots…. I actually think they are super adorable, but I remember thinking, really? Are we all just wearing this product because everyone else is? I felt like I was re-living my traumatic middle school youth again.

The problem is that we all too often find ourselves yearning to be more like others rather than just trying to be ourselves. Sometimes, without even realizing it, we find ourselves conforming to society’s pressures. We try to dress like the others, act like the others, and think like the others. And just like our kindergarten teachers used to preach to us, it’s no fun when everyone is the same.

We need to have courage to be different in a society that is constantly trying to assimilate us.

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When we conform, we lose touch with our originality, and our creativity is sniffled in the process.

Just be you.

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I believe that conformity is highly connected to comparison. We are constantly comparing ourselves to others, which we partly can thank our media-saturated generation for.  We compare ourselves to others at work, at school, on Facebook, you name it.

Comparison does not serve us, and has no space in our lives, yet we continue to let it take control of us.

Throughout the years of my life, I have found myself conforming mostly to make others happy. I never stopped and questioned why I was making the decisions I was. I didn’t want to rock the boat or stir up controversy. I think back to all the times in life when I could have stood up for a cause close to my heart, and I did not, for the fear of what others would think, do, or say. During moments like these I have to check myself:

Is this really who I am?

Am I cheating myself?

Am I squandering the beautiful parts of what makes whole?

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Today I want to gently remind you that there is only one YOU in the world, and your thoughts and ideas matter.

This might sound cliche, but there is no one quite like you. You are beautifully and intricately created. In this 7 billion populated world, there is not ONE other person who thinks the same way as you, looks the same way as you, and acts the same way as you.

Embrace it!

Dare to be different.

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Be who you are. Go your own path.

Get weird.

Bring fresh ideas to the table.

Ask different questions.

Challenge the status quo.

Dress differently.

Take a stand.

We need more creativity in this world, and less conformity.

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I’d love for you to ponder these questions for today: What are your strengths? What differentiates you from others? What makes you unique?

As for me, I love that I take risks and do things how I see best fit. I love that I can always see see many sides from different angles. Even though I have a stubborn side and can easily get fired up (or as I like to call it, get passionate 😉 ) I am a strong, capable, level-headed person. I am a sweet girl, but am willing to take a stand when it is needed.

“You were born an original. Don’t die a copy.” 

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Outfit details //
Camo jacket // MM Vintage
Jeans // Charlotte Russe
T-Shirt // unknown…I’ve had for a while!
Boots // Buckle
Purse // Charlotte Russe

Beanie // Tribe Kelley

Now that you’ve thought about it, I’d love for you to share! Please leave me a comment in the section below!

Photos by Shaunae Teske

Xoxo,

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  • Great Post..

  • Caitlin

    LOVE your pictures xo

    Caitlin, Beauty & Colour

  • YAS, GIRL. First of all, you’re absolutely killing it in this outfit! Secondly, this post was such a great reminder to DO YOU. It took me years to feel comfortable and confident in my own skin, but now, I’m happier than ever! One day, it just clicked; I stopped worrying about what everyone else thought and started living my truth. I think what makes me unique is my lightheartedness and sense of humor. Those are my defining qualities!

    • Aw Em! You have no idea how happy that makes me! You deserve to just “be you.” Because YOU are AWESOME. <3

  • Amen, girly! Love this. Love your heart! “Dare to be different” has always been a mantra for me my entire life. I used to have a poster of it when I was growing up…maybe I’ll make a new one! Also, you’re killing it with this outfit. This location was perfect for this shoot!

    • I love that quote! Maybe you should get a tattoo with it 😉

  • Leah

    Love this post. I always struggled growing up with finding my true self, and now I finally feel closer than ever. Sometimes though, I do need minders to BE ME. Especially as a fashion blogger, it’s so easy to conform to what everyone else was doing. Thanks for the reminder, Chels!

    • It totally is, girl! Don’t get sucked into that. Be YOU:) XO

  • Neely

    I love this message! Its always been hard for me to be a little different because I never wanted to feel weird. Now I embrace it!

    • Good!!! I embrace being weird too. 😉

  • I love your heart behind this look and this post. This is why you’re my very favorite fashion blogger — you address the heart behind the images and the people under the clothes. I’m still trying to figure out who I am and how to dress to reflect that, but it’s an ongoing process, right?

    • Brittany, thank you so much. That is truly one of the best compliments I have ever received with my blog! That is my intention with all of my fashion posts- I do love sharing my outfits, but I want my blog to be SO much more than materialistic items. It is most certainly an ongoing process! Love you so much!

  • AMEN AMEN AMEN. AMen x a million. SUCH a good post, girlfriend. Dare to be different!

    Coming Up Roses

  • Too often (and easily) do we fall into the mainstream trap. Doing just about anything to be accepted. To not be different. It’s taken me a really long time to realise what you’ve pointed out. There is only one of me, and I do me best :) thank you for sharing this.

    • You go girl! Damn right there is only one you!! XO

  • Yasss. Great message – I’m all about keepin’ it real and being yourself.
    I’m loving the outfit, girl. That Guns n Roses tee is life.
    Keep being weird. <3

    Christie’s Take on Life. xx

    • GNR gives me life! Thanks so much for reading, babe!!

  • Rachel Ritlop

    SOOOO MUCH YASSS TO THIS!!! Seriously, i love the point that conformity is the result of comparison! I love the “get weird” that how i try to live my life haha

    • It truly is! GET WEIRD, RACH!!! hahahaha.

  • I love this! You’re so right, conformity and comparison are related. We need to be who we are, because everyone is unique and that’s what makes life so beautiful!

    • Exactly. Thanks so much for reading, babe!

  • Amen girl, i totally agree with what you are saying here. In life you gotta keep it real – all the time. xx

    • Thanks for reading, Anna xoxo

  • First of all, love this look! Love that beanie and the booties especially!

    Secondly, I agree. I also think people have tried to decide for us what it means to be “unique”. I am unique because I stand up for what I believe in and live out my faith even when people criticize it. Unfortunately though, some people have “decided” that that isn’t unique and I need to be a “better” kind of unique. It gets frustrating, but I will continue being me. :)

    • Girl, I love you for being you, and for speaking your mind! You should be so proud of that. Keep doing you. Your true friends and family will understand and support you! <3

  • such a cool rock’n’roll meets boho chic look, love it!
    http://www.layersofchic.com

  • 1. those booties are awesome 2. you are awesome. 3 love this look :)

    • Thanks Kara. 1.) Right back at ya, 2.) Thanks for reading, 3.) I love ya!!

  • Joscelyn | Wifemamafoodie

    Love those fringed booties! Printed tees are my jam too! Super Cute!!

  • Greta Hollar

    I wish I dressed a cool as you! You have such a great rocker/boho look!

    Greta | http://www.gretahollar.com

  • Too true! I’ve always been one to “try” to be different. My husband’s friend says it makes me a hipster. hahaha. I didn’t think grown ups could be hipsters. But I genuinely start to like things less when everybody else starts liking them! I can’t help it. haha And I seriously love your boots – not surprised to find that they’re from Buckle. I love that store.

    • Hi Amanda! That’s funny you mention that because sometimes I feel I am a bit “hipster” myself, at least in the way I dress! I will admit I was always one to conform and do things because others did, but I’m proud to say that I believe I’m over that stage of my life! and yes…Buckle is dangerous! I used to work there!