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“If our eyes only saw souls instead of bodies how very different our ideals of beauty would be.”
I love this quote. Take a moment and let this sink in. What if we had the opportunity to judge others by their heart before their exterior looks? How different would we perceive each other? How different would our world be?
Beauty is such a broadly defined term. According to the media, beauty is often defined by what is attractive to our naked eye. Beauty is sexiness. Beauty is how well we conceal our skin; how luscious our locks of hair are; our dress size.
But we don’t have to match our own standards of beauty to the media’s standards.
We have the choice to define beauty on our own terms.
I am a perfectionist. I always have been, and I probably always will be. I find it so easy to get down on myself about the most insignificant things; things that one should never waste their energy over. Take for instance, these photos. As I was scrolling through these shots, instead of being grateful for my healthy body and the beautiful blessings in my world, my immediate thoughts were negative. “Ugh, my hair looks limp.” “I should have worn more makeup, my face looks bare.” “Why do I look awkward in every photo.”
I swear, if I heard one of my girlfriends talking this way about herself, I would snap at her, GIRL, shut up!
So why are we so hard on ourselves? WHY.
I think deep down, we know that beauty comes from within instead of outward appearances, but we forget this concept in the moment. We strive to be good hearted people, and to remind ourselves that beauty is not about perfect skin, hair, or clothes, but we get tussled and lost in the vicious false messages that the media embeds into our brains.
These self-destructive messages are so powerful that we believe them without even consciously thinking about it.
Beauties, I know it’s so hard to remember your worth when you’re getting thousands of messages every single day from the media, but please remember that beauty comes from within.
Beauty is a lot of things, but I’ll start off by telling you what beauty is NOT.
Beauty is NOT measured by the amount of time your hair can hold a curl. It is NOT measured by a size 0. It’s not measured by how tall you are, if you have freckles or not, or how big your thighs are. True beauty doesn’t care if you have a zit, if your eyebrows are uneven, or if your hair is frizzy.
Sometimes I get so caught up in my little imperfections that I forget about what really makes me beautiful- my heart. I think about my body insecurities that have stayed with me for years. The chicken pock scar under my right eye, the birthmark under my lip that doesn’t conceal even with loads of makeup. I think about how sometimes I walk with an inverted gait unintentionally because of hip problems, and I think about how the older I get, the more dark circles I get under my eyes.
These imperfections are so easy to see on camera. And SO quick to judge.
Unfortunately, you can’t visually see through photos what makes me beautiful on the inside.
My compassion. My empathy. My generosity. My willingness to forgive. My playful spirit.
I can’t be the only one who struggles with silly imperfections. I would love to try something here. In the comment section below, please share one thing that you love about your inner self. I’m looking forward to reading your answers and celebrating our inner beauty together!
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“The best part of beauty is that which no picture can express.” – P.C. Cast
Photos by Shaunae Teske