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Last year, I was Skyping a friend whom I met via my blog, and she asked me a question that I’ll never forget: “Chels, what is your intention behind your style posts?”

This question stumped me. At first, I’ll admit that I felt a little defensive. The thought that came to my mind was, Intention? I style blog because I enjoy doing it, and it’s a form of self-care. Isn’t that enough? 

I’ve been thinking about my blog’s authenticity in great detail lately, and I just recently went through and re-visited my blog’s mission, which is to cultivate intentionality and promote confidence and self-empowerment. As I deeply thought about my goals with my writing, and made a new goal to focus more on the “why” aspect of each post. Why am I publishing this? To whom will it help? What is the message I am sending? Why am I trying to send this message?

Any random person off the street who suddenly meets me may think that my style aspect of my blog is materialistic and promotes consumerism, but to me, it’s never been about shoving clothing brands in my readers’ faces. It’s so much more than that, which I why I felt was important to share with you all my intentions behind style blogging. Although I’ve always felt vulnerable sharing my writing with others, style blogging specifically has been the most nerve-wracking for me, of all my posts. Why? Because essentially, I take photos of myself and share them with the world; for them to judge and ridicule me as they please, and I may possibly never even know it. Since I started style blogging, I’ve received amazing support and feedback from friends and readers, but I’ve also received negativity, and have had to learn how to deal with the hurt. It’s an ongoing learning process. I’ve also struggled with my own thoughts and emotions regarding if style blogging is ethical. Is style blogging empowering, or narcissistic? After re-visiting WHY I started styling blogging in the first place, I re-affirmed myself that blogging has always been about healing for me, and I am not a narcissistic being, so why did I even let that thought cross my mind? To me, there is a strong difference between narcissism and having confidence and fostering creativity.

Without further ado, I’d love to share with you a few reasons on how style blogging has helped me face my demons and overcome some of my deepest, most vulnerable fears, and ultimately allowing myself to find peace in who I am.

1.) Style blogging has helped me come to terms that I cannot control what others say or think; I can only control my reactions. 

I’ve shared with you all before about my struggles with perfectionism and wondering what others think about me. I ultimately know that these thoughts do not serve me, but it comes with my people- pleasing nature. Every single time I publish a style post, I get anxiety. Style posts are so MUCH more vulnerable for me because with the photos, the post is largely focused on my apperance. However, thanks to style blogging, I’ve been able to come to terms that my true friends and family members will accept me for who I am. Honestly, I tried to hide my blog from my extended family members for almost the entire first year of blogging. It wasn’t until a few months ago when I started to share my posts on my personal Facebook page and allow them to see the work I was doing. It was that hard. I’ve learned that it’s not my problem if others are thinking negatively about me; ultimately, I need to do what’s best for me. And if style blogging makes me happy, I’m going to continue to do it.

2.) Style blogging has helped me cultivate my creativity and accept myself for who I am.

I used to be the most creative, artistic person, and lost that part of myself ever since starting college. I used to spend hours as a little girl creating; writing stories, newspapers and songs, scrapbooking, making comic strips, painting and more. I also had a passion for expressing myself via how I dressed; I’ve loved dressing up for as long as I can remember, and even recall planning out my outfits in elementary school. (Check out my killer outfit from the 90s; #FirstFlatlay). In addition, I remember wearing odd things in high school that normally other girls wouldn’t wear such as obnoxiously high heeled furry boots that looked strange on me because I was already tall at 5’8”, but I didn’t care. It made me feel special, and I loved that aspect of myself. Even before Instagram was a thing, I loved taking photos of my outfits. As you can clearly see, LOL.

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Since losing touch with my creativity as an adolescent, I didn’t start creating again until I started this blog, which was back in 2014. I started posting style posts because I loved it. I finally started to express myself again, and it felt almost as if I had re-connected with a long-lost friend. I’ll admit that still to this day, some posts are hard to publish because my style can be very different from the norm and I worry about what others will think. It’s been a long journey of self-discovery and ultimately, courage-building. Learning to freely love my body has been a lifelong struggle, and encouraging others to love themselves exactly as they are helps encourage myself as well. Others may not accept the way I dress, but I love who I am, and I’m proud to be this way. And you should be proud of who you are, too!

3.) Style blogging has encouraged me to go out of my comfort zone.

Since I’ve started to get serious with my style posts, I’ve made the effort to collaborate with other like-minded creatives. I joined the Rising Tide Society and attended a local meet up in Green Bay, where I was able to hook up with a few awesome photographers! The past version of myself probably would have never blindly attended a networking event by myself when I didn’t know anyone, but the woman I’ve become now (thanks to blogging) is much more empowered and courageous.

Going out of my comfort zone also means having the courage to be who I am, despite my fears of what others may think. (Notice a common theme here?!) For instance, I LOVE these 70s style pants that I am wearing in this post, but I’ve gotten a lot of weird stares while wearing them. They are my absolute favorite, and when I wear them, I feel so much like “Chelsea.” I realize that I am different from others in many aspects, but that’s what I believe makes me special and fun. Thus, style blogging has truly helped encapsulate this version of myself by encouraging me to go out of my comfort zone and embody my uniqueness.

It’s important for me to communicate to you that everything I do, I try to do with intention. Style blogging to me is all about cultivating my creativity, being vulnerable, and encouraging you to be confident with your own self and body. I hope that when you leave this blog, even if it’s a style post, you leave feeling uplifted and encouraged. I love you all so much and am so appreciative that you are on this journey with me.

I’d love to hear from you- what creative talents do YOU love to share with others? In what areas of your life do you struggle letting others in? Leave me a comment below!

Xoxo,

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  • What a great friend to start this conversation with you! You definitely have made me realize that style blogging isn’t just about looking pretty and I now put a little more thought and care into my appearance, because it IS a form a self care. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this!

    • Thank you for reading! Yes for me, it’s about cultivating my creativity and sharing my freedom of expression. Thank you!

  • Jessica Bradshaw

    It’s funny, I’ve never seen style bloggers as materialistic. I’ve always thought it looks fun and is great to share products you love with others. I love your heart and intentionality.

    • Thank you, sweet Jessica! I do have so much fun for it, and I love expressing myself via my blog. Thanks for reading!

  • Sharing my style really does help me realize where I could be creatively challenging myself, a subconscious rut I’ve gotten into, and more about who I am and what I like/why I like it. Realizing this has made me appreciate style posts from other people even more. :)

    • Aw thanks so much, Stacia! I just thought it would be fun to dive into WHY I love style blogging so much. Thank you for your feedback!

  • Sarah Kuziomko

    I love to make homemade beauty products – that’s my creative talent for sure!

  • Lisa Warren

    I mostly do style posts and I really enjoy putting together looks that hopefully help others to create outfits that make them feel good too. When I first started my blog in the summer I was a little intimidated and worried what others thought, I realized (like you) that family and friends are supportive as long as I’m doing what I love!

    • Exactly!! I was so scared first, but now, I see that people love what I do, and it fills my heart with great joy with they ask about it. I really do think that it’s all about confidence and how you present yourself and your passions.

  • Autumn Dickens

    Style blogging definitely helped me expand my creative talents. It really makes me think differently to combine different outfits and patterns etc. I love putting it all together! Loved this post girl!

    • I am so excited for your new journey, Autumn! xo

  • Daria Vinning

    It’s always good to reflect on your purpose for starting something, so when someone challenge a “why” sometimes it’s a good thing. It helps put things into perspective. I’m glad your blog is based on your confidence and that leads you to help others that’s struggling with personal and self worth. Thanks for sharing!

    • Thanks for your sweet comment! It was a great challenge for me, it helped me dig deeper and explore why style blogging is so important for me. Thanks so much for taking the time to read! xo

  • Elizabeth Johnson

    I love this post! Seriously. I love to see a blogger’s soul. To me that is truly utilizing the art form. When I started my blog I was afraid of what my friends and family would say. They can be some of my harshest critics but I know they ultimately want to see me succeed. (They have learned how to communicate criticism in love :) ) I have some haters and it used to get weighed down by their lack of approval. I can’t tell you how many times I cried for hours upon hours. My dad always told me, “You don’t have to go to bed at night with that person.” What he meant was that person is not your confidant. You don’t owe them an explanation or justification. Don’t waste your time or energy on trying to please that person. Do what makes you happy and stay consistent. Thanks for sharing your heart. As I follow your blog I am seeing more and more of who you are and you should have confidence in the fact that you are beautiful inside and out! Don’t let others get you down.

    Side Note: Have you read The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin? If you haven’t I encourage you to! It is fantastic and has really helped me to do, think, and be more happy.

    Elizabeth Ann // http://www.lovedoinglife.com

    • Hey Elizabeth! Aw, thank you so much for leaving that sweet, meaningful comment!! Yes girl, I’ve totally been there with the crying! What awesome advice your dad gave you. I love the saying “You don’t owe anyone an explanation.” If it makes you happy, that’s a reason in itself! Thanks so much for following my blog and for your support. It seriously means so much to me. And YES I totally have! I read the book last summer and it was life changing!!! :)

  • I love this so much! I’ve never had a problem with style blogging and I don’t know why people are so hard on those who do. I’ve always felt that everything that seems “superficial” and like a “waste of time” (like fiction, my passion, and something I’ve heard before) always has a deeper meaning than what’s on the surface. I’d say it’s rarely “I just want to share what’s in my closet and put myself on display.” It’s often tied to a passion that someone wants to share and connect with others on.

    • Yes!!! Thanks so much for that comment, Crystal! That’s exactly it. It’s all about passion and how you share your soul with others, If fiction is your passion, you don’t owe anyone an explanation!

  • Alexis Luu

    I actually love the fact that you decided to pursue style blogging. We need more of those people out there who can relate to others and give them ideas on how to find their own individual styles. Go girlfran! :) – Alexis

    http://www.thepetitecouture.com

    • Aw thank you!! That is so sweet of you to say! It’s just hard sometimes because my blog is style + self help, and I feel like the two are pretty separate from each other at times. But I love the freedom of expression style blogging gives me! Thanks again for reading! xo

  • I do not feel that style bloggers are narcissistic in any way. I enjoy reading style blogs because it gives me new ideas on what I want to wear. I know when I did a few style posts in the past (nothing great) I was so nervous about how I looked,etc. Style blogging is hard work! You put yourself out there in hopes that someone is not going to break you down. I give you props for that girl! Keep doing you and if people hate on you….that’s their problem. They are probably insecure about themselves.

    • Aw thank you. Truth, style blogging is SO much work. Like, an insane amount of planning goes into it!!! It’s so fun though, and worth the work. Thanks for supporting me always!! xo

  • I really love this and agree with your points. I wish I could become brave enough to have photos of myself taken like your style posts!

    • Girl, you CAN!!!!!! I know you can!!!! XO

  • Love this post, friend! I’ve certainly never construed your style posts to be narcissistic. On the contrary, your style posts are so inspiring to me because as someone who isn’t very adventurous when it comes to clothing, I read your blog posts and feel like it’s okay to step out of my comfort zone and wear things I wouldn’t have otherwise!

    • Thanks, Erin! That is truly refreshing to hear, and I appreciate that feedback! xoxo

  • So i haven’t quite been as active in commenting on posts since I had Caleb last winter, but I just want to say that every time I make it over to your blog I LOVE what I find, even if I don’t comment. I love how reflective you are and how you take the time to think about the heart behind everything you do. I am so not a fashionista (flowy T’s and jeans are my mama uniform these days) but I so admire your courage in expressing that creative part of yourself even when it’s scary. I feel that way when I share pictures of my house! i’m by no means an interior decorator but I love the creative process of it all and am learning to embrace that part of myself without fearing what others think.

    I’ll end this novel of a comment soon, but I just wanted to say how much I love your heart in all your posts! Keep it up…the community you have on your blog is beautiful and I’m so glad to be one of your readers!

    • Aw Lauren!!! Seriously, I needed to read that comment today and I’m so thankful that you left it. Thank you so much for being such a loyal, supportive reader. I love visiting your blog too and I love YOUR intention and heart. It makes blogging so much easier when I know that I have supportive readers that always have my back. Love you, girlfriend! <3

  • Crystal Marie

    Good points. Having a style blog is certainly out of my comfort zone.

    • Thanks so much for reading!

  • I love all your posts especially your style ones! It interesting to see what goes on/how you think behind the scenes. Very inspiring :)

    • Aw thanks girl!!! I appreciate you following along!

  • LOVE, love, love, love your heart, Chelsea! I appreciate this post so much and can so relate with it! Your style posts (and general posts) have always inspired me and they continue to. Your genuineness always shines through! <3

    • Aw thank you Summer. You are the queen of authentiticy and it means so much to me that you think I’m genuine! xo. Can’t wait to catch up on the rest of your blog this weekend! <3

  • Loved this post, Chelsea! Your posts always have such great insight behind them and aren’t just fluff. I really appreciate the authenticity.

    • Aw thank you. I appreciate you for reading!

  • Greta Hollar

    I always love your style posts! I appreciate you being authentic and real with your audience.

    Greta | http://www.gretahollar.com

  • Heather Gullett Denniston

    This is so great. I love self reflection on subjects such as this! Anything that pulls us out of our comfort zone is great!

    • It’s so hard at times, but totally worth it when you break through those barriers.

  • Kelsie Kleinmeyer

    I loved this post so much- I so appreciate your sharing your heart behind these posts, and the way they have impacted and affected you. I think that you’re doing an amazing job, and I always love reading your posts! I also was the funny child who laid out outfits the night before and sometimes had photos haha! Love it!

    • Lol YAAASSS! I totally want to see your outfits from the 90s as well. Haha. Thank you so much, Kels! <3

  • Nicole Parise

    This is really important. It is nice to see that your mission has been positivity, and also that it has helped you in the long run!
    xx nicole
    http://www.nicoleparise.com

    • Thanks Nicole! I LOVE your blog! XOXO

  • First off, Chels. I adore your blog. I may not always comment, but I read almost all your post. You are to me what I would like to be. Just having more the confidant to put myself out there (which I’m doing in my own little way).

    You have your heart on each of your posts and your beauty shines on. Your posts for self improvement has helped me a lot… so I want to thank you. Thank you for being you and helping others who struggle see that they too can become comfy in their own skin and share it.

    I really hope you have less people talking negative, because I really cannot see why anyone would. You are amazing. I don’t think that I can say that enough.

    Cheers, luv. Have a wonderful week.

    • Girl! Making me tear up, honestly!!! Gosh. I really needed to read this today. Thank you for being so kind. I really, really appreciate it. I hope I can always inspire people. And just remember, girl. You are beautiful, confident and loved! You just need to believe it YOURSELF! XO

  • I LOVED THIS! I have been so nervous about posting more fashion posts because I’m not model sized or even some of the big fashion blogger sized. It’s made me feel more confident and not care what others think. I’ve also really enjoyed styling pieces and motivating/challenging others to wear pieces they might not have thought of. I love you, your blog, and your fashion posts. You always inspire me and remind me of my self worth and that I’m what matters, not what other people think of me. Keep it up girlfriend! XOXO

    • Aw Lexi! Your fashion posts have been AMAZING !!!! And you are totally rocking it! You should never be insecure because you’re so beautiful, on the inside and out. Love ya, chick!

  • I loved this post. I love my blog as well because it serves as my creative outlet and no one can tell me how to create something that’s truly mine. I don’t have to put up a front or anything like on Facebook where people are often scrutinizing your posts. My blog is my domain!

    • Yay!! Good for you girl. That is totally awesome to hear how empowered you are!! Wishing you nothing but the best! xo

  • I love this! I wish I could be as confident as you are, you’re such an inspiration. :) I hope you never stop blogging because I always look forward to reading your posts! They always leave me feeling more positive. Thank you for sharing and thank you for what you do!

    • You are too sweet. Thank you so much- your kind words mean the world to me <3 You are the reason why I do what I do.

  • Angelle Marix

    You are stunning and have amazing style!!! Love this post and your realness. Blogging is so much more than loving fashion. Thanks for sharing.

    xoxo,
    Angelle
    http://www.dashingdarlin.com

    • Thanks so much for your sweetness, Angelle! Honored you visited my blog! xo