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Since as long as I can remember, one of my personal weaknesses is that I wish my life away.

There are so many instances in which I recall crossing the days off my calendar, counting down the days relentlessly, and wishing I was at a different place in my life.

How sad is that?

It probably sounds like I am a miserable, unhappy person, but the truth is that I am not. I am a very happy individual, and I have so much to be grateful for. So why the heck do I constantly wish my days away?

If you are a long-time reader of my blog, you may recall when I wrote a similar post about wishing my life away about a year and a half ago. It is interesting to see how much I have grown since this blog post, yet so much has remained the same. I am aware that living in the future-mindset is a growing problem area of mine, yet it is so hard for me to sometimes be present and appreciate where I’m at in life.

As much as I love learning in my graduate program, I cannot wait to start the next chapter of my life. I have long aspired to start my dream career, feel financially stable, and finally start a family. I’ve wanted to be a mother for what seems like my entire life; I feel like I was born to be one. Motherhood feels so close, yet so far away.

But the question is, once I finally “achieve” that perfect lifestyle, what’s next? Will I be wishing my beautiful infant child is older so I can get more sleep? Will I be wishing my child is older so I can be done dealing with their hellish teenager years? Will I be counting down the days until retirement?

Will I ever feel content?

I believe that happiness is a journey, not a state of mind.

It’s time to start living by example, and learning to be happy with my present journey.

This afternoon, my dear future-sister-in-law messaged me and asked me I would care to join her rollerblading. I hastily looked at the time on my phone and debated for about five minutes if I had time to get outside. I have so much to do, I thought to myself. Maybe I should ask her if we can go tomorrow instead.

And then I thought back to the instance a few weeks ago in which my counseling instructor took us for a walk outside and had us pause mid-walk.

“Close your eyes, and take a deep breath. What do you feel?” He asked.

“I feel calm, peaceful, and present,” I responded.

“We’ve only been outside for less than 10 minutes. Do you think that it requires a long length of time to be outside to feel its calming effects?”

It was in that moment that I realized that I have been making excuses for quite some time regarding my self-care. Excuses not to go outside; not to exercise; not to be with family. I’m too busy, I tell myself. I have to get XYZ done in order to succeed. I don’t have time to take care of myself. I don’t have time to enjoy the little things.

I thought about this life-changing moment, and ultimately decided to go roller-blading with my sister.

And you know what? It was wonderful. I was able to spend some quality time with her, enjoy the beautiful changing leaves, breathe in fresh air, and get some exercise. And it only took all but 30 minutes.

That’s why, for this week, my focus is to Just be.

Be present.
Be still.
Be observant of the little joys.
Be happy.
Be appreciative.
Be grateful.
Be mindful.

Just be.

Embrace the messy.
Embrace all of the opportunities ahead of me.
Live in the present, and have faith in my future.

It’s time to trust the journey.

Everything will be just fine, if I just be.


Does this post resonate with you? Leave me a comment below!

Photo by Kallidoscope Photography


  • Beautiful Chels! I’m exactly like you when it comes to being stuck in a future mindset. I either want something or miss something… and months from now, when my circumstances shift, I’ll be the same way… missing what it is I have now. It all seems so silly but it’s also how I live my life when I’m not intentional about focusing on the NOW. Hope you’re having a wonderful day :)

    • Right! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me. It is definitely a struggle but I find peace in knowing that I am not alone! I’m working harder ever day to be happy with the stage where I’m at now. Have a wonderful day, friend. <3

  • So beautiful Chelsea! I need to get outside everyday or I start to fill chaotic. Honestly there is something so powerful about spending time outside and grounding with the earth that I just love.

    Rachel |

    • YES!!! It is so comforting to be outside. It’s almost like the earth is the ultimate therapist.

  • Amanda | Maple Alps

    Great thoughts. Being outside is so calming to me as well. Glad you were able to enjoy it – only takes 30 minutes – I need to remember that more often!

    • Thank you, Amanda! I went rollerblading again yesterday, and it was wonderful. Sometimes, it really does only take 10 precious moments of fresh air.

  • Lindsay Katherine

    First of all, your pictures are stunning- WOW. But that aside, yes, I can totally relate and have a similar blog post in the works. I see my brother doing this a lot, which originally sparked my interest in this topic, but I even recall the newborn phase and falling in this trap myself. This stage in life is the most precious thing ever, but at the same time, it can be your most trying times. But those days are quickly fleeting and you never get them back. Totally get you, my friend.

    • Thanks friend. Ugh! I really do think that this year specifically will be one of the busiest and most challenging of my life, but it doesn’t make the struggle any easier. I am learning day by day the importance of putting yourself first and taking care of yourself, despite how busy things are!

  • I love this! I think we all can easily find ourselves hoping/wishing for the next big event/step in our lives, but to truly be happy we have to learn to find that contentment and learn to live in the present. Life goes by so quickly, so we have to enjoy it. Great post!

    • Life does go by so quickly! I have a long commute and I’m reminded of that daily when I hear about car accidents and such. Also, two classmates of mine passed last year. I’ve just been reflecting on how important it is to be happy NOW because tomorrow is not guaranteed.

  • Thank you for this reminder. I do spend many days simply crossing them off the calendar, anxiously awaiting the next “big day” on my planner. I need to enjoy the “empty” days too.

    • YES!!!! I love that. Enjoy the “empty” days as well. <3

  • Leslie Soto

    Girl! I feel like you and I are on the same page today. My post is very similar, about being more intentional and taking time out to enjoy the little things and just be still.

    I’m so glad you shared this. You are the inspiration I needed today!

    • You should drop me a link! I’d love to check it out :)

  • I totally relate! I think that is why I’ve had a hard time now that I’m done with school (after a VERY long time) and finally in the “real world”. I’m like “this is it?” What’s next?

    • Don’t remind me of what’s to come…..LOL

  • Greta Hollar

    Such a beautiful post. I think anyone can relate to this and be more mindful about being present.

    Greta |

    • I think we should all promise each other to work on this challenge! We are in it together!!

  • Loved this post, Chelsea. I’m so guilty of wishing my life away too.

    • Thanks Jenny. It is certainly a challenge at times!

  • Abby Grajewski

    Love this! I work on this everyday, but have a long way to go!

    • Don’t we all 😉 Thanks for stopping by!

  • Kelsie Kleinmeyer

    This is a great post, and really is what inspired the start of my blog in the first place! I also found myself wishing my days away, and I hated that. Being still has really been a challenge sometimes, but slowing down and really taking time to appreciate each day is so important!

    • Thanks Kels! Ugh it’s just the worst feeling when you find yourself wishing those days away. Being mindful and practicing gratitude is so key. Hope your pregnancy is coming along well!! xoxo

  • Leslie Nichole

    This is a greag post, i love it. I find myself wishing my life away most of the time. I want to get my own business set up so bad but i am so overwhelmed. I just wish it would happen for me. I think your on the right track.

    • Thank you, Leslie. I’m glad to hear that this post provided comfort for you. I hope that you find that balance and that your dreams work out in your favor! I’m rooting you on!

  • Oh yes, can’t agree more. We are so caught up with fretting about past and worrying about future. It’s time we realize that present is indeed a present to us. Just as you’ve summed up, “Everything will be just fine, if I just be” – Love it!!

    • I love that!! “The present indeed is a present to us.” Nicely said!

  • Nicole Parise

    This is nice – I think a lot of us are secretly counting days until some unknown thing, and it is better to embrace the opportunities and work in the present!
    xx nicole

    • It’s so hard to be in the present, but once you find a balance to enjoy your ever day routine, it get so much easier. <3

  • Happiness is definitely a journey!

  • starrymaze

    This post was eerily familiar to me. Also a grad student of psychology, and always have believed that i would be a mother. That last comment hit close to home. Anyway, thanks for sharing. Rollerblading is so fun. Your post served as an important reminder to balance our “need to do this” versus enjoying present moments with people we love. Thanks for sharing.

    • Thanks so much for reading! It’s so cool to hear how similar we are! :) Yes, remember that life will happen on our own terms, and sometimes we just need to be patient. I do believe everything works out the way it is meant to happen. <3