Real talk here.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever been personally victimized by
Regina George Instagram? Fess up, we know we all have scrolled through the ‘Gram and wished we had someone else’s life at some point. We stalk others, like their photos, and forever loathe them for their stomach/arms/booty/boyfriend/life. Whether the person on the internet that you are stalking is either: 1.) A celebrity 2.) A girl who you know through another friend 3.) A totally rando; there are several things I want to address and for you to keep in mind.
We need to STOP comparing ourselves to strangers on the internet. Seriously guys, this is such a 3rd world problem, but it is so REAL. For one, these chicks that we stalk and wish we were only post the most gorgeous, flattering photos of themselves. I’m sure at some point, someone has seen your photos online and has been jealous of you! The internet land is wonderful because it connects us to individuals all over the world, but it’s also a dagger to our self-esteem. We go round and round with the comparison game, never quite feeling content with our own lives; wishing our lives away to be like an individual whom we have never even met.
Why is this so dangerous?
1.) We fail to distinguish real life and reality.
We are stuck in our own cultural wasteland of fake images and perceptions that aren’t even real. We see photos but these photos are either shots of models or, if the person is “real,” a person’s very best shot of themselves. These images were personally hand-chosen, edited, and captioned perfectly by the person who post to create a perfectionistic image. In many cases, these images are even photoshopped models!
We only see edited images of someone from the very best moments of their lives.
2.) We forget to practice gratitude
When we put ourselves down because of what we see on the Internet, we lose sight of what really matters- the things that we have. We forget how grateful we are for the simple things. For our healthy bodies and all that they for us; our families who love us more than we’ll ever know, our friends who would jump off a bridge for us; the roof over our head. We forget about the beautiful things that we, in fact, DO have.
I’ll be the first to admit that being a fashion blogger, I tend to compare myself- A LOT- to strangers on the Internet. Whether I’m scrolling through my Insta feed to get inspiration or reading other blogs, I can be the first to testify to how easy it is get caught up in the comparison game. When you find yourself thinking this way, the best thing you can do is to put the iPhone down and give yourself a break from your device.
3.) We fail to realize how wonderfully made we are
We are totally awesome just the way we are, and in that moment that we decide that we wish we had a stranger’s life, we forget that. We were created perfectly and uniquely just the way you are. Darling, don’t let anyone tell you differently.
The moral of the story is; yes, there will always be someone that you’re jealous of on Instagram or Facebook. Just don’t let these posts control your life. Be smarter than the media, BBs.