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You are just as important as everyone else. Here's why you should start dating yourself

Humans exhaust me.

I love them, but I can only be around people for so long before my eyes start to glaze over and I’m lost in my own little world. Maybe it’s my extroverted introvert tendencies but after a few solid hours being social, I need time to recharge. Some days I’m all for going out on a Friday night and getting a little crazy (let’s be real- I’m a grandma), but most days I’d rather cuddle up and watch movies all night by myself eating my own pizza. (Kay, so this is every Friday night. Judge me.) It’s a give and take.

Dating myself // Why I do it

Why you should date yourself // with wine of course #Gloria Ferrer #CleverGirls #ad

Today on the blog I’m talking about how important it is to date yourself. As selfish as this sounds, I’m a firm believe that if you ever want to please anyone, you have to please yourself first. I’ve practiced a lot of mindfulness and self-reflection lately about the concept of putting myself first. I’ve realized this year more than anything that sometimes, you just have to say no to others and do what you need to do. For me, this often looks like taking a break from reality and spending some time alone to re-charge.

I love my alone time. I CRAVE it. Because it doesn’t happen often, I love when I can dedicate my entire night to ME. It’s a gentle reminder that I am just as important as everyone else, and I deserve to be validated and cared for.

Plus, I can eat a whole pizza by myself without any witnesses.

Here’s what it often looks like when I date myself //

-Grey’s Anatomy marathons with a bowl of icecream
-Spending my day shopping
-Going for a walk outside alone
-One Tree Hill binge-fest
-Taking time to wander and photograph nature
-Friends marathon with a bag of popcorn (are you noticing a theme here guys. I love food.)

Honestly, because of that extroverted introvert bit I mentioned earlier, usually dating myself means taking advantage of when Trevor has training at the Fire house and using the time alone to veg out and have some alone time.

Why you should date yourself // with wine of course #Gloria Ferrer #CleverGirls #ad

Have I mentioned that I’m also obsessed with wine? Yeah. Like, I may be a certified wine-holic. I legit tried to give it up for lent and only made it to day 6. Shame.

Specifically, Gloria Ferrer is my jam and I was pretty stoked that they generously sent me two bottles. Talk about dating myself. Does getting drunk by myself count? Gloria Ferrer wines have earned over 400 gold medals and 50 90+ scores in the last 5 years (Yee-EEE!) And cool fun fact: Gloria Ferrer was also the first to bring back clones from France to plant their vineyard. That’s some cool scientific shiz right there.

…..It may or may not be a coincidence that I published this post just in time for #WineWednesday.

Why you should date yourself //

We all deserve uninterrupted time to ourselves. Let’s face it, loves. Life is CRAZY in today’s day and age. We spend so much time trying to please others that rarely do we take the time to actually care for ourselves.

I want you to start dating yourself. Whether it’s taking a 10 minute bubble bath, whether it’s setting aside some time to paint, whether it’s going to a movie alone and buying that extra large bucket of extra-butter popcorn ALL for yourself. You deserve all of this. I’m cheering you on. I want you to put yourself first JUST this once.

Do me a favor. Pour yourself a glass of wine and indulge. If you need me at all tonight, you know where to find me. On my couch with my empty bottle of Gloria in all my glory. This a judgement-free zone. We’re all cheering each other on here. Live it up, girlfriend.


I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

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  • Love love that! This part was my favorite:

    I want you to start dating yourself. Whether it’s taking a 10 minute bubble bath, whether it’s setting aside some time to paint, whether it’s going to a movie alone and buying that extra large bucket of extra-butter popcorn ALL for yourself. You deserve all of this. I’m cheering you on. I want you to put yourself first JUST this once.

    It’s so important to love yourself – it’s EVERYTHING. I love the inspiration and thought behind this post, babe.

    • Thanks for stopping by, Krista! Glad I could inspire you!! xo

  • This is so great! I agree, humans exhaust me too and I’m totally a grandma too! Especially after becoming a mom I have realized how important it is to take time for myself. People always tell new parents to make sure to continue to go on dates and make time for each other, but I think dating yourself is just as important! I never truly understood how great a solo trip to Target could feel haha

    • Oh God YES! Wish I would have mentioned that in this post! hehe.

  • CourtneyLynne Storms

    Omg love this!!!!!!! It really is important to date yourself! If you can’t treat yourself fabulously then how can you treat anyone else fab? Me time is so crucial:)

    • Completely, Courtney! Hope you can treat yourself some day soon!

  • Yesss! This is also my definition of a perfect Friday night. Maybe also with a donut or a cupcake to top it all off. ?

  • Katy Bateman

    We all need self care in this crazy busy world, it can be hard to take time to do it. I love that you make it a priority!!


    • I love self-care…maybe I do TOO much of it… 😉

  • Yes! I need and crave my alone time so much. Unfortunately it is extremely rare in my house and when it does happen I feel like there is so much that I want to do that it is hard to decide :) Thanks for sharing some ideas!

    • Yeaah I can imagine life gets pretty busy! Thanks for stopping by!

  • Love this! Yes you have to take time for yourself and accept all that you are before you can have great relationships with others.t.hanks for the reminder!

    • Thanks for reading, Valerie! Hope you can squeeze in some “me” time this week!

  • I do this often. Maybe because I live alone but I do enjoy my alone time! Lately I have tried to disconnect from social media and the internet and take time to watch a full movie (versus taking all day to watch one movie because I keep stopping it to do something else) and I started taking baths to help with my leg pain but also found it very relaxing!

    • Totally. I wish we had a decent bath tub here. I’d take bubble baths all the time!

  • You already know how much I LOVE my alone time. Being a mama is hard and sometimes I just need “me time”. If you don’t take time for yourself, you’ll lose your marbles. lol

    • I’m not a mom, and I already need “me” time otherwise I lose my marbles. lol

  • great post!! I love your first line! So true

    • 😉 Thanks for reading!!

      And yes. Humans are exhausting. lol

  • I date myself often. Call it a part of my self-care. It’s important to make sure I get a little me time to detox from the world

  • Donnica Smalls

    What a great reminder. I love a good self-care day which sometimes looks like bingeing on ice cream and One Tree Hill on Netflix.

    • I will always love OTH (:

  • Hahaha this is so me too, Chels! I love to binge watch shows on Netflix (Yes, Grey’s Anatomy and Friends), and love long walks too. Though I often neglect my needs and focus on other things first, but you are so right, thanks for the reminder! LOL @your first line, so true 😉
    xx, Kusum |

    • Hehe. Thanks for stopping by, lovely! You are too sweet! So glad we “insta” connected (:

  • I love this! I certainly enjoy my alone time with my tv, books, laptop, and cat. :) Wine always helps, too.

  • Lisa Bender

    I love this post. It is so me. I am such an introvert that I hate going out in public and dealing with mostly rude people. My husband works nights so I get to enjoy quiet time a lot. You get a lot done also when you can focus. Thanks for sharing.

    • Oh that is nice; but do you ever get lonely?!

      • Lisa Bender

        I do some times but when it hits I just grab the dog for a walk or go to the store for a special treat. Then it passes. I try to wear myself out during the day too so that by 9pm I’m ready for bed.

  • I’ve done this AND I love it!

  • I’ve never tried Gloria Ferrer wine but it sounds awesome. I love me time too and I would not function well without it.

    xoxo, Jenny

    • I couldn’t live without my “me” time!

  • This post is perfection! Love, love it. I also LOVE wine very much. I love taking a nice hot bath, with a lush bath bomb, and wine. Oh how I wish I had wine in my apartment right now!

    • Ugh that sounds heavenly. This house doesn’t really have a nice tub because it’s older. Some day I’d like to take long, elaborate bubble baths! Thanks for stopping by!

  • Haha love this post and it’s a nice reminder that I need to tell my hubby I need some alone time! Might take a staycation for a night away by myself :)

    • LOL! Yes sometimes you just need that time to yourself!

  • Brittany

    I freakin love this! I am such an advocate of “me: time and these ideas are superb!

    • Yay! I’m so glad to hear that! Thanks for reading!

  • Yes yes yes! I couldn’t agree more. This post is perfect and totally on point with your opinions. :)

  • BRB Going to go buy myself a present

  • Yes! I love nights to myself. Especially when pizza and wine are involved :)

  • What a great post!! Sometimes alone time is better than any company!! (Sorry to my husband haha)

    • Haha I know, I feel bad leaving my fiancé out of this but sometimes I just need that alone time!

  • You make me want to try Wine. Your description sounds so inviting and relaxing. I’m an introvert so definitely need my alone time. I’m in the habit of neglecting myself so really the only alone time I get in a house with 6 people, a dog, and a turtle is on the weekends when everyone is asleep. Here’s how I indulge:
    1. Stream DramaFever (Korean Dramas – usually a comedy or romance)
    2. Nice hot bowl of spicy Kimchi Ramen with an extra side of Spicy Kimchi.
    3. Big box of tissue for the tears if it’s a romance
    4. Tall glass of water for the spicy Kimchi

    • Sounds like an excellent way to do self-care to me! You’ve never tried wine before?! It’s delicious and so relaxing!

  • That first paragraph is literally a description of me… I totally agree with every word! Dating yourself is v important. I’m all about it.

    • Haha. I’m glad you can resonate!

  • I completely agree. We need to learn to enjoy ourselves more; it is healthy and so many positive things come out of it. I can be a social butterfly, and strike a conversations with pretty much anyone, but I do not need to be surrounded by people all the time… I am definitely and introverted…. ☺

    You might also enjoy this post from JoyfulSavings: Don’t throw away your lotion tube…DO THIS First!

    • You sound a lot like me; you really need time to recharge!! Happy Friday! xo

  • Autumn Dickens

    Yes! Give me all the wine! Haha. It’s so important to give ourselves some love everyday. For me, that’s some dark chocolate and a class of wine while catching up on my favorite shows. And Gloria sounds amazing, definitely checking it out. :)

    • Yes, me too! I hate that I’m so addicted to Netflix, but it’s the truth! I need to read more and watch TV less. lol

  • Maybe I should try this, I like going out with my boyfriend all the time because he works full time and the only time I get to see him is a little bit in the morning and a few hours at night time and then just weekends. I will consider going out by myself on a weekday :))

    • Yeah girl! Do something for yourself! Happy weekend!

  • As always, spot on! Dave and I are both very similar where we like to have our own time in the evenings. He likes to zone out playing video games, and I like to watch my favorite shows (also with wine or ice cream!).

    • That works out perfect then! haha

  • This is such a great idea :) I love my “ME TIME” and sometimes the stress of life just wears me down. I’m excited to do some things like this for myself! :)

    • Hey Miranda, thanks for stopping by, and happy weekend!

  • Mimi Rose

    I love this post! I adore my alone time and I luckily have quite a lot of it these days since I work from home. I’m definitely an introvert, so being able to indulge in my favorite things and “take myself on a date” is simply the best. :)

    • So glad you are able to have that for yourself! Cheers to Friday! xo

  • Me time is so important! And a little Gloria always makes things better. <3

  • lifestyleandso

    nice post,i agreeit’s soo important to take time to yourself,it gives a fuel to continue the rest