Somebody leaves you. Please don't go.

Dear You:

I am so glad that I found you at your weakest and that you are reading this. I think I know where you might be. You’re feeling hopeless. You’re feeling alone. You’re angry. Maybe your heart is broken. You don’t have the will to get out of bed, live your life, and see other people. You feel like no one gets you, and that it will never get better. You are consumed by feelings of hopelessness.

I have something to tell you. It will get better.

That stinging pain that you feel deep within your soul; that heaviness in your chest that stands in the way of each breath you take; that voice inside your head that is telling you to give up. That never-ending darkness and fear that stands in the way of your dreams.

Please don’t. I’m so sorry you are going through what you are. I’m so, so, so very sorry. Maybe you are struggling with body issues. Maybe the one person you ever loved broke up with you. Maybe you just lost a child. Maybe your spouse just divorced you.

It gets easier.

Somebody loves you. Probably your mother who gave birth to you, or your father who stood by your side through it all so far. If not them, then it’s that one friend that you always knew you could trust. Maybe it’s your teacher who was the only one who ever believed in you. Your child.

Please, my dear friend, know that somebody loves you. Somebody needs you.

The world will lose too much if you go. It’s not worth ending your pain for. The world will lose the beautiful talents, love, and gifts that you bring. You can’t cheat the world of that. You were born for a reason, and you should stay. 

I think you know that deep down, that suicide isn’t the answer. You’re just looking for someone to reach out too.  You’re looking for someone to understand. You’re looking for someone to listen to you for once in your life and to truly be understood.

If you end it all, you will ruin the chance of things ever getting better. You owe it to yourself to be a fighter and never give up. Please talk to someone. Anyone. Please let some one know the pain you are going through. There are people out there who want to help you find your way. Just know that you are not alone in this.

You are loved. You are needed. Time heals all. I believe in you. 

Xoxo,

*Although I am training to be a counselor, I am not yet a licensed professional. Please call the Suicide Hotline at 1 (800) 273-8255 or 911 if this is an emergency. 

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  • I’m sure this letter will help a lot of people; even those who are not in such a dark place! It’s so nice to know that someone out there cares and believes in me! Love you, Chels! You are going to make a fantastic counselor!

    • Aw thank you Chelsie. Hopefully!

  • Kim

    Love this. The area that I live in has a high suicide rate and these things are so important for everyone to know! Thanks for sharing this!

    • Thanks so much for commenting, Kim. I’m sorry to hear that you are familiar with suicide :(

  • Thank you for sharing this, Chelsea. I just love your heart! This means a lot to me, as I have struggled severely with this in past years. It’s nice to read this and be reminded of truth now, even when I’m not struggling. Again, thank you.

    • I love YOUR heart!!! Of course. Anytime I can lift you up, just let me know!! <3

  • That is truly powerful writing!

  • Becky @Disney in your Day

    So important. In college I was in a very dark place – I never considered suicide because I managed to hang on to some semblance of logic that told me how devastating it would be to my family, but it was always about them, not me. I was consumed by so much hopelessness, it was just a truly awful feeling. As silly as it sounds one of the things that really helped me was reading (Harry Potter), and a couple of really good friends.

    • Oh my gosh Becky, I LOVE Harry Potter! Favorite series of all time. I’m glad that you were able to get through your dark time.

  • I LOVE THIS POST. I have gone through multiple times in my life where I did consider suicide – and these are the things I would have needed to hear. I am definitely sharing this one.

    • Aw thank you for sharing, girl! I’m so sorry to hear that at one point you considered suicide. I’m wishing you nothing but happiness in your future <3

  • Denay DeGuzman

    I think most of us at some point in our lives have either personally known or encountered someone who has been in a dark, lonely place. It’s important to take time to reach out and let them know they are valued and loved. The hotline you listed above is a great reference, and those who need help should be encouraged to make that call.

    • Exactly. I hope this reaches someone and they realize how important it is to get help.

  • Such a powerful post, Chelsea. You truly have a gift to reach people through you’re writing, and I love seeing posts like these and knowing someone who is struggling will be uplifted by this! I’ve had my share of dark periods in my life and these are words that everyone who is struggling NEEDS to hear!

    • Aw thank you so much, Erin! I hope it helps someone in need.

  • YES. I love this post and the fact that this can help so many people who need it. This is such a great post, Chels!

  • This is such a great post and I hope the person that needs it finds it!

    • Thank you, Autumn. I hope so as well!

  • Wow, so beautifully written and so necessary. This is so much more common than people realize and I wish more people could read this. I will definitely be sharing and hope that the people who need to read this will!

    • Aw thank you so much, Lauren! xo

  • Heather Gullett Denniston

    I was just going to message you and suggest you leave a call number. Well done, found it at the bottom. You have a beautiful, sensitive nature.

  • Important, compassionate words. Whether we are at our last feeling of hope or not, these words are true and strong.

    • I hope it helps someone in need!

  • What an important read.
    I am not considering suicide by any means but this post was very touching.

    xoxo, Jenny

  • It’s always important to let people know who are struggling that they are enough and that they are important. This was a great read and truly your compassion shines.

    I was once there – thinking those feelings and wondering what would happen. I had someone help me through it much like you want to do and this is a very important message to give across.

    “It’s always darkest before the dawn” – Florence and the Machine.

    • I’m so sorry to hear that at one point, you were in this darkness. I hope things are better now and I am so grateful you had someone help you through it, Chel <3

  • Good to get it out there. Such a sad topic, but very necessary to let people know there is always help!

  • JT

    I’m here on this planet for my kids. while I’ve had dark thoughts from time to time, I just can’t do that to them. Not right now. I’m still miserable & I feel like a failure most days, but I’m 45 and have to stick it out.
    If I didn’t have kids, it might be a different story, unfortunately. Other than them, not many people would miss me.

    • I truly believe that someone other than your kids would miss you. <3 You are doing a wonderful thing by staying for them. This world needs you. <3

      • JT

        Thank you. I appreciate it.

  • This is beautiful and much needed. It’s ironic that you reposted this to Facebook today- I am bipolar and today was one of those days that was extremely hard to get out of bed and function halfway normally. I needed this post.
    You’re going to make a wonderful, empathic counselor.

    • Aw Amanda! Thanks for taking the time to write me this. I’m glad it helped. You are so wonderful for saying those things. Thank you so much. <3 Much love, girlfriend.

  • OnceUponADollhouse

    Very touching and inspiring! Thank You!