Good morning, friends!
Can I start off your day by asking you a question?
Do you ever find yourself in a room full of people, yet instead of actively engaging with them, you are sitting on your phone?
I’m embarrassed to say that I do this more than I care to admit.
This month, I have decided to challenge myself to be more present. I can’t even count how many times I have engaged in conversation with friends and haven’t heard a word they said because I am on some sort of electronic device. I hate this about myself so much. I firsthand get extremely frustrated when I’m trying to talk to someone and I can tell they aren’t being present with me in the moment.
Who do I think I am to preach about this, and then be a hypocrite?
I don’t want to be this way. I’m sick of constantly checking my social media when I’m at a social gathering. I’m sick of being blind to the beautiful scenery around me because I am texting while walking. You’re probably thinking in your head, “Chelsea, it’s not that hard just put away your devices!” But you know what…sometimes, it is hard. We have different forms of media constantly pulling our attention away from us. A text message. A Facebook notification. A tweet. An email. It scares me to think about all of the moments that I have missed throughout my life because I’ve been preoccupied by something else as silly as an electronic device. I don’t want to be that girl who Instagram’s her food more than actually enjoying her food. But right now, I am that girl.
I can’t imagine how hard it must be to be a parent in this crazy, connected world. I don’t ever want to unknowingly neglect my children because I’m addicted to my devices. I would like to think that I am going to be a wonderful mother someday, but this behavior that just sends chills down my spine. I want to be a mother who is completely present with her children; someone who is able to rid herself of the distractions to give her children the attention they deserve. My future children deserve not half of me, but all of me.
This June, I’m challenging myself to be a better person for my boyfriend, family, and friends. I would like to make some change and reverse my bad habits so I can be a better mother when I do have babies. Here’s how I am planning to work on myself:
1.) Being aware of when I am tempted to be disengaged
When I feel myself pulling away from others, I plan on asking myself, is it necessary to check my phone right now, or can this wait?
2.) Leaving my phone in my purse more often at social events
This way, I won’t be tempted to take it out.
3.) Putting my phone away at meals
It’s just plain rude to have it out at the table.
4.) Take less pictures and enjoy the moment more
As some of you may know, I am a huge photography junkie. It’s just an automatic habit to grab my phone to take a picture during a beautiful sunset, traveling, or doing something out of the ordinary. I have found, especially on my traveling trips, that sometimes those beautiful pictures are not even worth the hassle if I am not truly living to enjoy the moment more.
5.) Put it away when I am spending time with loved ones
There is no need for me to have my phone out when I am watching a movie with my boyfriend or engaging in conversation with him after a long day of work. I want him and my other loved ones to realize that they are a priority above anything else.
So there is my June challenge, completely laid out for you. Hopefully I can inspire you to work on yourself as well; at least get your wheels rolling about this issue. My question for you is, do you feel like you struggle with being present? If so, please feel free to join me in my June challenge and keep me updated with your progress in the comments below. Let’s work on this together and make a commitment to ourselves to live in the moment more instead of trying to capture it. Be present with yourself and your loved ones.
Be well, and have a wonderful week!
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