In a world that is constantly telling us to be different than who we are, I think the bravest thing that we can do is be ourselves and know our worth.
Self-love is valuing your worth as a person and being gentle with yourself. Sometimes, it can be hard to love ourselves. Society is always pulling us in different directions and people may interfere with our mental thoughts about how we view ourselves. There are always going to be people disappointed in you; people who don’t understand why you are the way you are; people who just don’t like you. We live in a world where we are constantly being judged, gossiped about, categorized, and labeled. So what exactly should you be striving to do in order to practice self-love?
People who love themselves…
… Don’t rely on someone else to make them happy
It may feel safe to completely invest in a romantic partner and have them be the center of your universe. It’s perfectly okay to fall in love and to lean on your partner for love and support. However, what is not okay is having your partner be the backbone of your happiness.
I truly believe that you need to be happy with yourself before you can ever make anybody else happy.
People who love themselves know that their happiness depends on themselves and their attitude. They don’t rely on others to boost their confidence, mood, or overall happiness in general. People who are usually dependent on another for happiness struggle being alone with themselves. If you put all of your eggs in one basket, what happens if that basket spills? Unfortunately, sometimes people let us down. I guaranteed in this life, someone will hurt you, break your trust, or anger you. You need to be able to love yourself and know your self-worth so that your whole world doesn’t fall apart if this happens.
… No longer feel pressured to be perfect
Perfection is just an illusion. What may seem perfect in one person’s eyes will undoubtedly be not even close to perfection in another’s eyes. There will always be someone wittier than you, prettier than you, smarter than you, and more charming than you. And you know what? That’s okay. Perfection isn’t real. People crave to around someone who is genuine. Someone real.
In addition, being a perfectionist is literally exhausting. You don’t expect your friends or your siblings to be perfect. So why should you expect that of yourself? It’s all about having realistic expectations of yourself. Don’t strive for perfection. Strive instead to be the best version of yourself. When you come to peace with yourself that you are just a person and you are trying your best, you won’t be so devastated if things don’t always go your way. Learn from your mistakes. Let failure teach you a lesson. Find
… Love what makes them stand out as in individual
I don’t understand why we try so hard to fit in and be like everyone else. People who practice self-love embrace their quirks and characteristics. What is it that makes you unique and separated from the others? Is it your musical talent? Your ability to counsel people? Your infectious humor? Embrace your uniqueness and own it. Truly happy people who love themselves are proud of their personal characteristics. They don’t aspire to be like anybody else but themselves. Which brings me to the next one on the list….
… Don’t compare themselves to others
How can you truly value your worth if you are constantly worrying about others or trying to be like them? Comparison is a dark and dangerous path that NEVER ends up positive, my friends. We all compare ourselves to others from time to time, but when it becomes an unhealthy addiction, it is devastating to your self-esteem and self-worth. If I asked you if you could trade lives with someone, would you do it? Most likely not- because if so, you would not have the same family, the same job you love, etc. So why do we as a society constantly scrutinize our lives and compare ourselves to the lives of others? Read this to further help you break the comparison cycle.
… Have come to peace that they are ENOUGH, just the way they are
People who value their worth know that they are ENOUGH. And they understand that the people who truly love them will ALWAYS love them, just the way they are. They don’t feel pressured to change anything about themselves because they love themselves.
… Live their life according to their own standards
People who love themselves live their life according to their own values and what they feel is of value to them. They follow through with their passions and don’t ever let anyone tell them to live their life differently. They know the importance of putting themselves first at times. They have the courage to pave their own way and keep their head held high despite if they are not always pleasing everyone.
Self-love is a journey. It can be hard to love ourselves at times, but we need to hold ourselves in the highest regard despite troubling times when we feel un-loveable.
How do you practice self-love? What has your self-acceptance journey been like?
Love yo-selves, friends.