Is Social Media Ruining Our Generation? | Inspiration Indulgence
We are the generation controlled by social media.

We are the generation who is held prisoner to our devices. We cannot go to bed without our phones under our pillows. We cannot make it through a homework assignment without being distracted by Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, and Pinterest. We cannot make it through a movie without checking our phone. We cannot make it through a family dinner without our phones going off. We risk our lives for a text message while driving.

At first, it was fun.

It was fun to check text messages on that first Razor flip phone; it was fun getting our Myspace account; it was fun IMing on MSN Messenger. Little did we know, this was only the beginning of the era that would consume our lives. We wish we could go a day without it. It gets tiresome walking down the sidewalk with our eyes constantly glued to our phone. Sometimes, we run into things or people while we stare at our devices. We wish we could just turn it off the day and not worry about it.

But we are the generation who knows that that isn’t an option. Because everyone expects us to have our phones on us. Everyone expects us to text back instantly. Everyone expects us to know what’s going on via Facebook. As much as we would like to free ourselves from its wearisome grasp, we simply know that this is not a choice in our generation.

We are the generation that lacks basic social skills.

We fear calling people on the phone because we are stronger behind our written words than our vocal cords. We no longer ask people out on dates. We first stalk their profile on Tinder, message them, and then maybe meet up. That is, if their profile picture is cute. We are superficial, judgmental, and scared of face-to-face communication. We would probably rather text all night than actually meet up in person. And if we do meet up in person, we will texting someone else the same time. We are the generation who runs into classmates that we haven’t seen in 10 years at the grocery store and don’t know what to say to each other because we actually know where they live, what their job is, what their babies’ names are, and how many dogs they have due to Facebook.

We are the generation with fading morals.

We are incredibly narcissistic. We take selfies and base our self-worth on how many likes and comments we get. We spend more time taking pictures for the sole purpose of uploading them on social media than taking the time to enjoy ourselves at the social event. We create multiple social media accounts so we can avoid our family members on Facebook. We choose Facebook as a “sacrifice” to give up for Lent every year. We cyber bully and destroy others with our words because it is easier to do so behind a screen than in person.

We are the generation ruined by social media.

Xoxo,

The Generation Ruined by Social Media | Inspiration Indulgence

  • I like the epic tone of this and the points you’ve made. Sometimes it’s hard to say these things without sounding hypocritical because literally all of us use the internet daily, but you’ve managed it here.

    When you touched on the MySpace/Facebook references, it reminded me of a post in which I mused on being a part of the ‘myspace generation’

    Where is the quote section on Facebook?

  • Inspiration Indulgence

    Thanks for the read! While I was actually writing this, I thought to myself, “I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite because I do these things.” So I tried to incorporate the word “we” because we all fall victim to it. Sometimes I wish social media never existed!

  • I think that social media is only a symptom, rather than the cause. The root cause is nihilism, and it has peculated down to the masses by claiming there’s happiness to be had in things which are really fleeting. I suppose I fall for it as well sometimes. It’s as if a new phone will make your life happier, or a faster internet connection will lead to bliss, or maybe more hits on your Youtube video will lead to fame and then to a happy life.

    Well, now that I think of it, social media has perhaps accelerated the downfall, but it’s been going on for a long time.

    • Inspiration Indulgence

      Wow, great introspection! I never thought of that. Social media contributes to that temporary high we get from believing that it will make us happier when in reality it doesn’t. Thanks so much for reading!

  • True Story. I myself got addicted to social media and I think it starts getting too much. I mean, I’m grateful to be able to stay in touch with people.. but also do I get jealous a lot because others’ lifes look so awesome on facebook (and I try to make mine look awesome too). I’m plannung on having phone-free days – as hard as it may sound….

    • Inspiration Indulgence

      I completely agree. I actually wrote another post similar to this one about how we are constantly comparing ourselves to others, and one way is through Facebook and social media in general. I think that this is typical and everyone experiences jealousy at some point, but it is how we react to it. Remember- people only post the most exciting parts of their lives on social media. The truth is, at some point someone was probably jealous of something you posted! Thanks for the read :)

      • Yeah, I know. You’re right. Sometimes I wish we’d live back in the 70s with our home and families and not thinking about if the grass is greener elsewhere – but only for a second, then I’m grateful again for globalization… Stupid question: how do I follow your blog?

      • Inspiration Indulgence

        I have said that before too!!!! I honestly wish that I didn’t grow up in this generation so relationships could be a lot more personalized and there would be no such thing as social media. Then again, it’s great for causes like this where I get to meet people like you all around the globe. I guess it is a win-win! And aw thanks for your interest! To follow it, you have to go to the website (http://inspirationindulgence.com) and subscribe (enter your email address). It doesn’t appear in the WordPress Reader as a follow button anymore because I moved to my own self-hosting site recently. Thanks! And it’s great to meet you:)

  • I completely agree with this. Additionally, social media serves as a platform for people to feel the need to “keep up with the Jones” and one up each other both with items and how they portray themselves. It’s sad. From a financial standpoint (as someone in the industry) it’s also scary.

    • Exactly! I know that when I go on social media, I usually feel somewhat negative after the fact. It shouldn’t be this way! However, I love social media because it provides opportunities to connect with others from around the world. It’s a horse a piece.

  • Maggie

    I honestly disagree. Social media can be an incredible tool for increased connection between people. My parents live 10 hours away (by car), 2 (by plane). Without FaceTime and Skype, their interactions with their grandkids would be severely limited.

    Social media can be disconnecting, but only if you let it be. If you spend your time perusing the ups and downs of someone’s life who you really don’t know. For me, seeing something about a friend on social media is cause to pick up the phone and talk with them – check in with them – care for them.

    Social media is a tool and it is up to each of us to decide how to use it. If you don’t like the hold it has over your life, then change that. Take a break from it, set some boundaries. If you lose friends because you don’t respond immediately, then talk with those friends about what is going on – about your values and how you want to live your life.

    Get out of the passenger seat and into the driver’s seat.

    • I definitely can see your side! It’s wonderful that Skype allows your family to stay connected. I don’t necessarily hate social media, but I feel that I would have enjoyed life if it was never invented in the first place. But then again, who’s to say that I would? I’ve never lived without it, so I wouldn’t know!! Great tips- I know that when I start to feel discouraged, I limit myself. When I sit on Facebook all day long, I can feel my self-esteem drop. Thanks so much for sharing your opinion!

  • This is a great post and I completely get where you are coming from! I’m in my mid-twenties, I got to witness social media being introduced and remember clearly before I ever got a cell phone. I can live without my phone but I do spend too much time on it when I have it around. Because of this, I actually have to make an effort to leave it in another room or my purse. It’s ridiculous. The thing I hate most is how much people compare their lived over social media. I try to keep my day to day life private, and not share too much.

    • Same here! I remember the days chatting on AOL and then suddenly, Facebook was introduced when I was in middle school! My mom wouldn’t let me have one because she was so concerned about the privacy and the crazy internet world (I don’t blame her). Oh my gosh, too funny. I have to do that too- sometimes I legit have to say to myself, okay I’m going to not check my phone for a half an hour. How sad is that?!

  • Anonymous

    Oh my goodness, remember T9? The struggle was real. It’s crazy how fast technology has advanced over the last hundred years. I do think that it has gotten a little out of hand, but at the same time see the benefits to having instant connection. The world is so small, I always wonder what it will be like when my daughter is my age. My best defense against her getting swallowed up is to teach her how to use the internet constructively which I don’t see many parents doing. I feel like they either don’t pay attention to what their kids do online at all or isolate them them it, neither of which is conductive to their future.

    • LOL!! The T9 days. Yes I remember it all too well. It is totally crazy! I just wonder what they are going to come up with in the next 100 years. I definitely share your approach to parenting. I don’t think isolating will do much since there is so much media saturation everywhere; then again, I don’t think our children should be given free range.

  • I agree to every word you’ve written! This whole social networking thing is actually creating a division between us. Great writing! :)

    • Thanks so much for reading :)

  • This is exactly why I’ve banned phones/kindles/iPads from the dinner table! The dinner table is the one place a family actually spends time together during the day, why ruin that time? It will still be there when dinner is over :)

    • I’m so glad you set boundaries!! It’s so important to have some family time away from technology.

  • This was interesting and a great read. The days I forget my phone or decide to take an internet break are the most inspiring days I experience. I’m thankful to be from a different generation where there was no social media or devices that controlled our day to day activity. Sometimes you just have to learn to say no because there is more to life…

    • Thanks so much for your kind words and for reading. I wish I grew up in the generation before! I just wonder what it would have been like to not always feel a prisoner to my phone. I’m thankful that I have the opportunity to interact with people all over the world but sometimes I wish I lived back in a simpler time.

  • byecomparison

    Oh me oh my, what a good post. I agree, and think (desperately hope) that as with most things, the pendulum will swing back the other way sooner or later. I’ve noticed a lot of bloggers (including myself) speaking out against this trend of disconnecting (disguised as connection) and comparing, and over-sharing, etc. and I think that’s great. I hope it catches on and begins to put things in reverse–to inspire people to long for and recreate the time when people invested in relationships in person, or even speaking on the phone vs. taking a split second to like the umpteenth photo posted by a friend. Alright, I don’t need to write a follow-up post in the comments, your post was more than sufficient. It obviously struck a chord with me. Thanks, Chelsea :)

    • Aw thanks so much for your thoughtful comment, Brooke! I totally agree. Since I’ve started blogging I actually feel like I have been a worse family member/girlfriend because I don’t spend as much time with my loved ones when I have free time! And it makes me sad but yet again, I love blogging and interacting with my readers. Social media is amazing because you can connect with people from all over the world. Yet again, sometimes it can be such a curse!
      P.S. You can write a follow-up post in my comment section anytime! 😉

  • YES! THIS! I am so addicted to social media and I HATE it! But like you said, it’s become part of who we are as sad as that is. I think we all acknowledge it and have just somehow accepted this sacrifice of ourselves for a lil piece of everyone else on FB. Thank you for sharing!

    • Thanks so much for reading!! Social media is such a controversial subject- we all love it, but we all hate it!!

  • George Montes

    What would be the problem solver then?