Not accomplishing you goals? These top 5 reasons may contribute to why you are failing.

Failure is one of the worst feelings in life. The feeling that you didn’t succeed; that no matter how hard you tried, you didn’t make it; ­that you just weren’t enough. We all desire to achieve our goals and to make it. We are constantly striving to improve our lives and when we fail at this, it hurts. No matter who you are. Why are you failing? There are common patterns in lifestyles, decisions and attitudes that lead to failure. Read on and see if you fall into one of these categories. If you do, the first step is to acknowledge what you are doing wrong and commit to making a change.

Here are the top 5 reasons why you failed:

1.) You surround yourself with toxic people

Being around “toxic” people is not only a buzz killer, it’s what I like to call a “dream killer.” How many times have you been around a specific person who made you rethink your dreams? “Toxic” people are judgmental, jealous, negative, and/or hurtful. These are the kind of people that when you talk to them about your goal, they give a skeptical vibe and make you sink a little in your chair. You know that they truly don’t believe in you or secretly don’t want your success for whatever reason. Toxic people could be family, friends, co-workers, bosses, or acquaintances. You need to let these people go. They will not support you or help you; they will only harm you and cause distress. It may be hard to break free of toxic people, but I promise you that it is extremely liberating and worth it in the end.

2.) You don’t believe in your dreams

You failed because you don’t believe in your dreams. Let me ask you something- if you don’t believe in your dreams, who will? Anyone who has ever accomplished something has given it 110%. Look at CEO and founder of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. A brilliant Harvard student, Zuckerberg dropped out of school his sophomore year to pursue his dream. Do you think he would have been successful if he didn’t have full and complete confidence in himself? Absolutely not. He envisioned something that could be great and pursued his own path. I’m sure at the time he was highly judged and criticized by his peers for “throwing away” his education, but he did what he had to do and look at the man now. Net worth of 33.3 billion and creator of the social media revolution.

3.) You are not educating yourself

To truly succeed at a goal, you need to be fully committed and do your research. Those who are successful have read books, spend time reading articles and forums, have met likeminded people, and make sure they set aside the right amount of time. They learn from others’ ideas, trials, failures, and triumphs, and make their own journey individualized. If they aren’t able to put in a decent time commitment, they cut something out of their life to make it a priority. They put their blood, sweat and tears into their goal. Lastly, they learn from their past failures and incorporate what they learned into their new attempt.

4.) You don’t take baby steps to achieve your goals

Goal setting is imperative in order to succeed. Starting small or short term (weekly) goals that are written down and given a timeline will lead to long-term goals that are more achievable. Baby steps first. For example, it is not very realistic to say that your goal is to lose 100 pounds in a year. Instead, it is realistic to commit to losing 5 pounds a month. Set little goals within your weekly goals, i.e. “I am only allowed to have sweets for dessert twice this week” or “I will commit to going for a run three times this week.” If you don’t write down your goals, your chances of achieving them are cut drastically. Writing it down is like a consented “contract” to yourself that you are willing to commit. Just remember- a goal is simply a wish if not written down.

5.) You don’t take time for yourself

Sometimes when we are so fueled by our passion to succeed, we don’t take enough time for ourselves. For instance, when you are working overtime to get that promotion at the office and neglect getting proper sleep and physical exercise, you are being quite harsh to yourself. Every day, try to take a little time to shut your mind out of your work or goal and relax. Whether it is cooking, exercising, meditating, praying, cleaning, taking a bubble bath, reading a chapter of a book, WHATEVER, just make sure that you do something for yourself that feels intimate and lifting for your soul. A car cannot drive unless it is fueled and maintained. Think of yourself like a vehicle; how can you expect to succeed if you are not recharged, fueled, and taken care of?

Believe that you have a purpose and reach for your dreams. Don’t let anyone or any excuse get in the way. Best of luck, and thanks for stopping by!

Xoxo,

  • A short and simple list which works in every scenario. For me, setting goals is really vital. My efficiency is low when I do not set goals. :)

    • Same!! In fact, it’s very unlikely I will accomplish anything if I do not write it down. Thanks for reading :)

      • When I do not plan my work, I have observed that even the fun-part of my life suffers. Productivity hits a bottom in all the spheres, professional and personal. :)

  • I am gonna be more kind to my body this week…eat healthy fuel, do yoga, sleep, exercise and get sunshine. Gonna make a checklist now!

  • I am gonna be more kind to my body this week! Eat better fuel for my body, do yoga to stretch my muscles, exercise my heart and lungs, sleep my cold and stress away and get fresh air and sunshine. Gonna make a goal list now!

    • Love this!! Thanks so much for commenting and sharing your goals! I have a grad school interview this week..my goal is to conquer it!! Good luck with your goals…keep me updated! :)

  • Ana

    Good lilst. The last thing I would add is: You believe that you are doing all of the above right, but you are not, and you are blind to it. Happens very often!

  • This is so true! Great post :)

    • Inspiration Indulgence

      Thank you so much for reading! :)

  • Very well written article will save this for future reading when i need a refresher.

  • I like the way you put it.. Simple but powerful..!!

  • I love this post. I really agree with number four. Setting goals is vital!

  • rzaidi01

    Love this! Most of the time people tend to focus on the negative emotions related to failure, they fail to reflect on how they got to that space in the first place. Tip 3 really stands out for me. You have to believe in yourself and be committed 110% to achieve your dreams. If you truly believe in your goal you need to follow through with the commitment. Something a lot of us forget, but it’s super important.

    • Inspiration Indulgence

      Thanks for reading! I really appreciate it. I totally agree! I think this is the what I struggle with the most. There are times when I really feel that I have all of the confidence in the world, and then there are times when I just lose all hope and faith. I try to think of examples of really successful people who started from little and were self-motivators. I believe with hard work, anyone can get far. Thanks again for reading!!

  • I can totally relate to this. I have been trying to accept that I need to make some changes to go after my dreams, and I think I’ve been letting the fear of failure stop me. I haven’t been taking enough time for myself to focus on the steps I need to take to make my dreams happen. This inspires me to go after it! :)

    • Inspiration Indulgence

      Thanks girl! Out of curiosity- what are you goals and dreams? :) Your writing inspires ME!! Seriously.

      • You’re welcome! Aw, thank you so much. I’m so glad it inspires you. :) One of my goals is to be a writer for a living. That’s what I’ve always dreamed about. And I also dream about traveling, mainly to Europe. That is something I believe would give me a wider understanding of the world.

      • Inspiration Indulgence

        I have absolute 100% faith that you can write for a living. I really believe that you have a gift and I think that you already have such a cultured and educated understanding of the world. You are young and have so much ahead of you. I would love to visit Europe as well…especially to see London and Paris :) Looking forward to watching you grow as a writer and a person :) Happy hump day!

      • Thank you, that means a lot. I appreciate it. :) London and Paris would be amazing. I always wanted to sit outside a cafe in Paris and write. I’m looking forward to seeing where your writing takes you as well. Happy hump day!

  • I love the way you write. It is so spot on to how I feel :)

    • Inspiration Indulgence

      Aw thanks so much Jake! That truly means a lot to me! I try to write about topics that people can relate to. I’ll be sure to catch up on your blog! Thanks for reading :)

  • Ashley Chase

    I have seen such a change in some peoples lives all because they changed who they surrounded themselves with. My sister just got into high school and in middle school she had so much drama and was getting in so many little arguments with girls but now that she has changed schools and has met new friends I have seen such a change in her personality for the better.

    • Chelsea

      Aw I’m glad to hear that things are going better for her!! It truly does come down to who you surround yourself with.

  • Taking time for yourself is so spot on for me. I had fitness goals but I didn’t see results until I set aside an hour a day of “me time” away from my family to workout in peace.

    • Chelsea

      I go CRAZY if I don’t have “me” time. I love being around people, but I can also be a very private person. I NEED some downtime or I go insane.

  • Kristen Sampson

    These are so spot on! There are so many people in my every day life that are publicly questioning why things do not go well for them on social media, etc. We need to make things happen for ourselves. No one else can do that for us! Great Read!

    • Chelsea

      Thanks so much, Kristen :)

  • Nina Robinson

    This is a great post. Aside from #1 I can think of examples of all of these applying to me in some way. Very eye-opening. Thanks!

    • Chelsea

      Thanks so much for reading! Glad you could find ways that these applied to you.

  • Great post, Chelsea! I think so many people overlook #3 and believe the myth of the “overnight success.” It takes so much hard work and research and learning to succeed at anything!

    • Chelsea

      Thanks! And agreed. That’s how I feel about blogging! It’s slow but steady growth and success.

  • Jenny

    I’m really not good at taking time for myself!

    • Chelsea

      I struggle with this as well. Let’s work on it together. Even if it’s only a half hour TV show, I NEED some “me” time!!

  • I’m really good at doubting my dreams and talking myself out of them. Since making the choice to quit my job, I probably tell myself once a day that i’ll never make it as a full time blogger. I need to stop that and just believe that I can do it!!

    • Chelsea

      Chelsie, you CAN!!!! Your blog is fabulous! I admire you so much for your courage to quit your job. You have been an inspiration to me to follow my dreams. I know you have what it takes…now YOU just need to believe it :) Your content is fun to read, inspiring, and informative. You got this!

  • Ellen Oliveira

    I needed to hear this. Great post Chelsea. Gotta put in the work.

    • Chelsea

      Thanks Ellen :) Glad it helps!

  • DT

    Toxic people really do drain us of all energy… Believing in ourselves is another very important thing.
    It’s a great post- thanks for sharing!
    —DT | Here I Scribble

    • Chelsea

      Thank you so much :) I completely agree. I try to keep myself around positive people only!

  • So true. All of it. Even when you know what’s right, it’s still SO hard to follow it….if you know what I mean. lol

    • Chelsea

      Thanks for reading!

  • Chelsea

    I know what you mean!! lol

  • Sensible Stylista

    What a fabulous article! Thanks for sharing.

    • Thanks for reading! Glad you enjoyed it.